1. 3v3 goes to the sd-card socket. eagle will highlight all tracks and pins if you use the 'name' tool
2. the matching KK-156 header plug, although I would put screw terminals in the board instead of that to keep things easy.
3. you may get some interference from the motor drivers, so keep motor wires well away from everything else, and ask google about interference suppression. I'd also suggest putting suppression chokes on the power wires going to the motor drivers, as those will carry fluctuating currents too. In fact, a separate supply and case would be best, but you may try piggy-backing them if you're certain that the noise won't fry anything on the motherboard...